Blame is an excuse to justify not taking accountability. It only serves to disempower those who believe it. And worse, it doesn’t represent reality. You’ll be able to control an outcome more often than not.
Seek the input of others. Many groups of people could provide insights you couldn’t otherwise get by yourself. Ask for feedback from family, friends, colleagues, customers, and so on.
There is a sequence to any non-trivial process. Therefore it is beneficial to be deliberate in the order of activities and decisions. Discover useful heuristics and keep priorities salient to improve flow.
You can desire both, but without a distinction you risk everything. Find comfort in securing basic needs and ignoring most wants. Simplifying your lifestyle will increase your self-sufficiency and well-being.
Jumping to conclusions without relevant observation increases the liability of your biases. Those premature judgments build upon each other over time. Make your observations, test them, and verify via peer review.
Hire someone who is passionate to work with you towards shared goals. Skills are still important when hiring, but they are also teachable. Passion comes from within and is much harder to cultivate in others.
This form of documentation has pragmatic short-term value and if maintained long-term value. Authors are forced to refine their thinking. And for everyone else they serve as quick references when learning new processes.