Blame is an excuse to justify not taking accountability. It only serves to disempower those who believe it. And worse, it doesn’t represent reality. You’ll be able to control an outcome more often than not.
Every field of work will eventually develop it’s own unique lexicon. You’ll never stop learning new words. As work changes so will the words used to describe and complete that work.
Seek the input of others. Many groups of people could provide insights you couldn’t otherwise get by yourself. Ask for feedback from family, friends, colleagues, customers, and so on.
There is a sequence to any non-trivial process. Therefore it is beneficial to be deliberate in the order of activities and decisions. Discover useful heuristics and keep priorities salient to improve flow.
You can desire both, but without a distinction you risk everything. Find comfort in securing basic needs and ignoring most wants. Simplifying your lifestyle will increase your self-sufficiency and well-being.
Jumping to conclusions without relevant observation increases the liability of your biases. Those premature judgments build upon each other over time. Make your observations, test them, and verify via peer review.
Those who stick together grow together. A peer-to-peer mentoring network will accelerate your personal growth. Find those you can consult with regularly, openly, and with intent to share challenges.